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Heavy News from a Heavy Heart

Dear Friends,

Today I write to you with a very heavy heart to share news that I never dreamed would be a part of my story. These last several months have been some of the darkest and hardest months of my life. And as a result, I am deeply sad to tell you that Clara and I are in the process of a divorce. This isn't something I ever wanted for my life, my story, or my future. But it was, unfortunately, what was needed in our particular situation. I'm not able to go into details at this time, but know that I am doing what I need, to process and heal from all that has happened.

I am still very much in the thick of figuring out what the new stability in my life will look like. Every day feels like a giant leap of faith. I deeply appreciate your love and support as I walk this (at times) unbearable journey. At this time, the absolute best way you can support me is to consider joining Patreon ( Supporting my work for even just $5, $10, or $25 a month makes a huge difference right now. With a spouse who carried about 75% of our income, I have been able to focus on social justice and my Lyme treatment in recent years without much concern around finances. However, this is now dramatically shifting as I think about how to stabilize my sole income, while continuing the work I am passionate about. Patreon provides a consistent monthly salary that will help me as I start that process, as well as other essential undertakings like qualifying for housing and continuing the most critical components of my Lyme treatment. Meanwhile, our current house goes on the market next week. As you can imagine, all these things weigh on me greatly. If my story or my work has impacted you or someone you love, your support would be such a gift to me during this time of crisis.

Also, Clara has intentionally removed herself from my circles of influence to create space between my network of support and hers, and is leaning on those around her during this season to ensure she gets the support that she needs. So please respect her need for space and do not reach out to her at this time.

Finally, I want you to know that my commitment to supporting and advocating for LGBTQ+ relationships and marriages remains strong. My divorce does not change that or my resolve to continue fighting for the acceptance and equality of LGBTQ+ people. Sometimes things happen in relationships that are beyond our control ~ things have absolutely nothing to do with our LGBTQ+ status. So please rest assured that my commitment to my work remains firm.

While I may not be able to answer all your questions at this time, I do welcome your messages of love and support. I know you will be there for me in the weeks and months ahead and I am so deeply grateful for all the beautiful ways you as a community embody love and belonging.

Thank you for standing with me in this season of great darkness. I cherish each of you.

Amber Cantorna To join Patreon, visit:

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